Why You Need to Give Yourself a Break

This was not today’s planned topic.  However, today’s topic was more intense and due to being incredibly busy for the last few weeks, I hadn’t pre-written it.

So when I woke cranky this morning after a bad sleep, the idea of trying to write today’s topic had me stressing.  Which led me to this topic.


Sometimes we all need to step back

There is nothing wrong with taking care of yourself.  We all get overwhelmed at times.  We put deadlines on ourselves, tie ourselves to routines.

I hate missing blog posts so when I wasn’t in the right headspace today, the idea of missing today’s post gave me anxiety.

Honestly, that’s the last thing I need, getting anxiety-stricken over something like a blog post.


Don’t be too hard on yourself

Beating myself up for not writing the post I had planned doesn’t really help me.  It wasn’t exactly motivating.  All it did was create stress that made me want to avoid thinking about it.

I am still trying to remember not to be too hard on myself.  Things happen, life happens, something can crop up unexpectedly.  Adding extra stress on to my shoulders over my own deadlines is silly.

If I had missed a blog post, it’s not the end of the world.  I could have reblogged one of the many awesome posts from blogs I follow.  As it happened, this situation created a blog post of its own.


Avoid burn-out

Taking a step back is a good idea because if we keep pushing through stress we can end up burning out.  Which means you would need to step back for even longer and it can have a detrimental effect on your wellbeing.

I’ve had burn-out in the past, so you think I’d remember to take my stress levels and anxiety more seriously.

So this is just a reminder to everyone (including me) to give yourself a break, don’t be too hard when life throws you a curve.  Step back, take a breath and give yourself some time.

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32 thoughts on “Why You Need to Give Yourself a Break

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    1. lol I was. I took a break and it helped… but then everything has got crazy again (hence the delay in replying to comments, sorry about that) and now I feel like I need another :p

      1. No need to apologise to me about anything ( I am so far behind and have hardly posted anything this year!) Life has been too busy and some things have to give way. Your health must be a priority because without good health everything else you do will be a struggle. Both my daughters have similar problems to you and I know how frustrating it can be. Take care, my dear xx

      2. How true, life gets so busy and interrupts all the plans we have, especially online plans. I look forward to more blog posts when you get the time, you always have such beautiful photos included.

  3. It’s an important topic, to be a writer takes determination and it’s hard to turn that drive off. Even harder to do it without guilt. But it is essential. I find it easier to give the advice than take it.
    Enjoy the rest of your weekend! 😊

    1. Exactly! The guilt is so strong as to make you keep going, it’s not healthy. lol I know what you mean, it’s not always easy taking our own advice.

  4. I totally know the feeling! I had all these plans to write in the evenings while away on my overseas trip, but…yeah, no. Hasn’t happened. All I’ve written are my blog posts and the creation story for my fantasy WIP. But that’s okay! Sometimes you’ve just got to take a step back to take care of yourself and/or make the most of life’s other experiences 😊

    1. Still sounds like you’ve done a great job writing posts and working on your creation story. Maybe sometimes we writers like to overfill that plate of ours 😀

    1. Hi Shalini, apologies for lack of response, your comment went into spam for some reason and I only check spam once a week.

      I hope you are feeling better. It is awful when that tiredness descends. What are you currently reading?

  5. Great advice. I myself figured this out this week. I put a lot of pressure in myself to post on certain days but when I couldn’t I felt bad and anxious and I took a few days to relax and take care

    1. Yes, it can be a pressure we put on ourselves especially with our blogs. As one of my other commenters, Lorraine, said, it’s like guilt. We feel guilty for failing to do what we were hoping to do.

      But in the end we need to take care of ourselves, recharge those batteries. I am glad you realised that and stepped away. The blog will still be there and you can come back refreshed 😀

  6. One of the things I love most is this amazing writing community that I have become apart of. They are the most supporting, amazing group of people I have met and yes Ari, that includes you.

    I took time off last week. Out here in the states we celebrate the 4th of July. Me and the gang took a trip to the Oregon coast and relaxed. We enjoyed the crashing waves, the birds and a whale or two. My blog wasn’t going anywhere and when I came home I felt a whole lot better.

    Take a little time. Get away or take a nice walk in beautiful Northern Ireland. I’ve never been there but I’m guessing it’s beautiful.

    Talk to you soon. Remember……relax.

    1. Yes, I was shocked at how supportive and awesome the writing community was. It is lovely to meet other writers and/or bloggers who are willing to reach out and help each other.

      Aww it sounds like you had a great relaxing time and how cool, whales!! 😀

      Yes, it is beautiful. We have some lovely areas very close by. My partner is currently off work so we are spending the days together. (I’m only replying to comments now and not later because he’s busy doing something)

  7. One thing I’ve learned is definitely don’t burn yourself out when you blog. Pace yourself. I’ve reduced my posts to no more than four a week. Sometimes five if it is something short like a poll or something like that.

    1. Oh yes, burn out can be a nightmare. I need to remember that when other areas of my life take over, that it’s not the end of the world to step back from my blog.

      Thanks for your kind comment 🙂

    1. Thank you my friend, I am feeling much better. I definitely needed a few days away (from most of the internet). These recharge days are so important

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